Are you ready for your ‘what’s next’ moment? Did you know there is always a ‘what’s next’ moment?
If you believe that you’ve already reached your apex, that the best things in life have already come and gone, you need to revisit all those ‘I want to be this by this age’, ‘I’d really like to’, ‘Man, wouldn’t it be a hoot to’, ‘I’ve always wanted to’ mental notes you stored away over the years in your SOMEDAY file. Sometimes, when you take a second look at that file, you’ll find something in there that you never got the opportunity to try for because the time never met up with the opportunity or visa versa. Or maybe you did give something a shot and it failed to come to fruition so you gave up. Did you ever consider back then that maybe it just wasn’t the right time to go for it because you might have needed more experience to make it happen then.
That said, we’re talking about now. Your new now! Your post 50 milestone! Your new badass self! Maybe this is the time when you’re contemplating what to do with the rest of your life. Your next move! Your next chapter! Your next adventure! So take a moment right now to revisit that someday file! Kind of exciting isn’t it? Maybe you could give that ‘thing’ a try again because you’re better prepared now. You’ve learned over the years how to see options better and understand that there may be several approaches to it, not just a set-in-stone road you took back then!
Complacency and tolerance are easy prey when you start trusting that things won’t work out, that it was just not meant to be, that it should never have been ‘your’ dream or desire or thing in the first place, or that it’s too late. Timing is everything, yes, but I believe that there comes a time when you get to flip that hourglass so that sand that’s falling now becomes a visual cue to discover all that’s new ahead of you. The world has changed vastly over the past decade, and while some opportunities may have slipped from your reach, many more have arrived. All you have to do is be willing to use all your talents, combined with all the life lessons you’ve learned along the way, to chase a few of those things now!
Your next chapter can be even more fun after 50 because the early stuff, raising a family, working, etc., that’s all water under the bridge. You are wiser and braver having survived all that came with your earlier life! You’re still bloody standing!!! You deserve a fucking trophy for that, don’t you think? So, it doesn’t make sense for you to think there’s nothing left for you to do! This is the time to rev your engine, to reboot, to decide you are deserving of a fulfilled life!
Fifty, or as some call it, the halfway mark, is a great time to rekindle your soul and your spirit. Marry that rekindling to your brain and heart and soon you’ll be able to think more along the lines of, ‘The best has yet to come’! Look out world, I have arrived………again!’ All that bullshit running loose in your head, here’s your new motto to address that—hear me now—get out of my way—I’m comin through!
Don’t ever let yourself become satisfied with being stuck just because you’ve been stuck and you decided to settle for or tolerate that. Boredom and self-doubt often leads you directly to those depressed thoughts, horrible self-talks, why me thinking, and guess what, those depressed thoughts start piling up like a stack of bills you’re not sure you can pay off! You may not even realize that some of the thoughts you’re internalizing are the very thing that is setting limits for you! Yes, that sneaky-ass subconscious mind continuously mines for those thoughts, and those thoughts filter pretty quickly into your conscious mind when you’re on the fence about something. Why, you wonder? Because it gives you all the excuses you need to stop yourself from taking any unnecessary chances or risks! The subconscious is the party pooper of all time and is always embattled with your gut instincts! Your gut is a fucking genius! Pay attention to it!
But!!! Wait a minute! Who say’s you don’t want more now that you’re over 50? I know I do! I feel like I’m just getting started! I want you to feel that way too!
If you want to awaken your soul, you have to cut the cord to old thinking and the ‘not me’ dialogue you let run and repeat in your head. You need to flip that coin. You need to start talking the ‘why not me’ talk until it douses the subconscious flame that’s holding you back from empowering yourself, from doing the things you want to do, to being that person you want to be, to reaching those goals you want to reach! You want to build a fire—build one on self-awareness and one that makes you open your eyes so you see your value and worth at this age. You have to realize how much you have to give because of your fifty plus years of experience! What’s come and gone has come and gone! If you’re letting your past be your wheelhouse, please, please, please—stop scratching an old itch that’s healed. Let it go! Now is your time to shift!
Here’s how you do that:
#1 STOP letting yourself feel tired and worn out all the time because of what you’ve been through! We’ve all been through something! Why are you still letting it bother you now when it over and long gone? You grew up—put it away now!
START allowing yourself to explore the idea of changing those feelings by deciding you don’t have to stick to them any longer, because the longer you do, the more powerless you will feel. You grew up. It’s time to move on, move forward! It’s time to wake up!
#2 STOP thinking you can’t be what or where you dreamed you’d be!
START thinking you have everything, the knowledge, the wisdom, and the wherewithal you need to transform your life now. Believing in yourself is the first step! Doing something new does not have to be that ‘scary moment’ all the time. Nervous energy, when used as stimulant, can propel you forward. Don’t be a scaredy cat, because a scaredy cat never gets the mouse!
#3 STOP thinking, ‘what if I fail?’ If you start out thinking with this thought, how is that giving you an opportunity to change and grow and get what you want now?
START thinking, ‘I know there’s a possibility that this won’t work out, but I’m going to give it a shot anyway because, if I don’t, this moment might slip away right before my eyes and I’ll never know how it would have turned out!’ You don’t always have to know the outcome up front—you just have to be willing to bet on you and just go for it because, the reality is, you really have nothing to lose!
How many times have you said to yourself—“Man, I should have jumped on that opportunity when I had the chance?” I’ve certainly said that to myself plenty of times, but now that I’ve surpassed fifty, I take a closer look at everything that gives me an opportunity to feel better, get better, and be better and I jump in full throttle! That’s what I want for you as well! I want you to be willing to jump in more often than not just to see how it will actually turn out!
Now is the time in your life to shake things up, to open the door to those ‘I always wanted to do’ things. We might not be as spry as our younger selves, but nothing beats experience! Be BRAVE! Throw some of those irons into the fire and see what lights up! It’s your time to rise and to shine!
I hope this little piece gives you a starting point to consider how you want this second half to go!